Uniquity – The art of finding the unique YOU…

Uniquity – The art of becoming Inspirationally YOU…

A very inspirational post I found on the internet and absolutely needed to pass on I found this on the website – Artist Network– Here is the the link to their main site :   http://www.artistsnetwork.com/

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Uniquity: Discover It

(This excerpt was previously published in The Declaration of You! by Jessica Swift and Michelle Ward, copyright 2013. It is republished here courtesy of CreateMixedMedia.com and North Light Books.)

Uniquity!

Whether you’re an artist launching a new Etsy shop or a writer looking for a full-time gig or simply a person looking for her spark, being authentic is what makes you you and what will set you apart. Some will call it “branding,” but how boring is that? (And hello, what a way to bring on a case of the “shoulds!”) Your uniquity is what makes you interesting. Your uniquity is what others will relate to. Your uniquity is what will get you the sales, the clients, or the job. Your uniquity is why people will want to work with you. Your uniquity is you; it’s why you’re awesome.

Michelle says—
“The biggest thing I learned when I pounded the pavement as an actor was, well, what made me me—my uniquity, my spark, what made me different and where I thrived. From those post-college years, I learned that I loved (and got cast!) singing loud and funny; creating new, SNL-like characters; portraying multiple roles at once; and being quirky, enthusiastic, spunky and offbeat. Once I put those pieces together, the lightbulb went off over my head, and I made sure to bring my quirky, spunky, offbeat enthusiasm into the room the first time I entered, whether it was visually with a polka-dot dress (and matching headband) or audibly with the song I sang to show that I was both funny and loud! Allowing myself to be me let me be secure with bringing myself into the room and put me at ease almost instantly.

“I’ve been able to bring that into my coaching practice and pair it with what I know makes me spark (writing, speaking, coaching, collaborating, relationship building). I’m able to see what is in line with my authenticity because I know what makes me, um, me.”

But how do you find your uniquity? Some do it by making the big, fat mistake of comparing themselves to others who are doing similar things, which essentially lets the Comparison Vampire outta the coffin.

If you’re anything like us, searching and clicking onto the websites of those who are doing what you’re doing or what you want to be doing ends up being a one-way trip to Loser Land, with stops at She’sWayMoreTalentedThanMe City, ICanNeverBeAsSuccessfulAsSheIs Town, IfShe’sAlreadyDoingItWhyShouldI County and the big continent of What’sThePointAnyway. These are not fun places to visit, and yet some of us decide to live there!

How do you get a one-way ticket back from Loser Land? You don’t need to click your heels three times. Instead, all you have to do is realize IT’S A CHOICE! You don’t have to fall into the self-comparison trap! And yes, “it’s a choice” needed to be capitalized, italicized and bolded for extra effect. We’re learning that just because other people out there create and do things that we admire intensely does not mean for one second that we shouldn’t also be making and doing things we’re proud of.

Letting yourself play the comparison game, and then letting that game stop you from creating whatever it is that you know deep down you want to create, robs those people who are out there ready to admire and adore you and your unique brilliance.

People are amazing, aren’t they? You could probably list twenty people right now who you think are just the coolest and most talented people on earth. But here’s the thing: You’re amazing, too. We’re all amazing because we’re complex, beautiful, unique and flawed human beings—all of us, just because we’re alive. We read recently that only one in every ten billion living creatures on earth is a human. Isn’t that astounding? One in ten billion! We’re quite special.

It takes practice to be kind to ourselves. We hold all kinds of rules for ourselves and ideas about how we should be, and in reality we just picked them up along the way somewhere, thinking it was “the right way to do things,” and now it’s time to let them go. We need to be kinder to ourselves and listen to our own hearts; ask ourselves, “What do I want to do?” And then do that. Not according to how anyone else thinks you should do it, but however you want to do it, in a way that makes your heart sing and skip beats and jump up and down in your throat. Because why would you even want to compare when you feel that?

That’s joy, people. Tapping into your purpose.

Our purpose as humans is to be happy and to love one another. That can only stem from first loving and valuing ourselves. And let’s face it: We all have something unique to bring to the table. Even if your style of painting or photography or dancing is similar to someone else’s (that’s why broad categories like Pop Art and Modern Dance exist), it doesn’t mean that it’s a copy. It can’t be. If you see a still life exhibit, does every bowl of fruit contain the same fruits in the same order, or is it shot or painted the same way with the same colors and the same style? Of course not. It’s impossible, really.

So let’s just do what we usually do anyway—checking out/sizing up/building up the competition—but INSTEAD use it to stop at Motivation Junction, Inspiration Land and Uniquity County. Those places are much prettier.

OK, so here’s an exercise for you. First, think of three people who are doing what you strive to do. And no, these don’t all have to be big shots like Oprah or SARK, but they can be your friend who’s such a great mom or your own mom or your first boss who pulled out all the stops to teach, support and enthuse you. Got ’em? Good. Now write down the names of those three people in the spaces at the top of the Three Greats worksheet that follows. In the rows beneath the names, write down their attributes. If it’s difficult to pick them out, ask yourself:
• What do I admire about so-and-so?
• Why do I think so-and-so is so awesome?
• If I had to write so-and-so a letter and explain why she’s so inspiring, what would I say?
• Why am I attracted to this person (why do I always read her blog/buy her art/ask her to hang out)?

Three Greats

Now, let’s sum it up. If you needed to write one sentence explaining what these three people have in common that rocks your socks right off, what would you say?

These three people rock my socks because ___________________.

Here’s where it gets scary: We’re gonna focus on why YOU’RE awesome! Step out of your own shoes and into the shoes of someone whose socks you rock right off their feet. And don’t tell us that there’s nobody whose socks you rock. We don’t buy it. Own it—it’s OK!

Write this person’s name down in the blank space at the top of the Whose Socks I Rock worksheet. If you want, get a picture of ’em and put it nearby for extra effect.

For extra, extra effect, ask ’em to fill this out for you! We know it’s super scary, but you don’t have to watch.

Can you begin to see that the three people you wrote down on the Three People worksheet are just different from you? Not better, not worse, just different and unique?

Consider that you each have an audience of people who will resonate with you, and your intention is to find those people. Look at the attributes of your three people next to what makes you unique. Spend some time seeing the lists as descriptions of completely different individuals. It’s like comparing apples and oranges!

It’s time to become the owner of those unique gems that are shining inside of you, and declare what makes you sparkle below!

Whose Socks I Rock

(This excerpt was previously published in The Declaration of You! by Jessica Swift and Michelle Ward, copyright 2013. It is republished here courtesy of CreateMixedMedia.com and North Light Books.)

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